Friday, November 12, 2010

Friday is for Friends

It would be easy enough to turn into a hermit. Some days I feel pretty close to it, but if you look up the definition, being a hermit isn't such a bad thing, what with the introspective aspect and all. If you're into tarot cards, here's what the Hermit is about. Makes it sounds a little less mental, doesn't it?

I've fought the tendency--it's the reason I started playing tennis again, as opposed to golf. But then, things like blogging, knitting, and cooking, just to name a few of my current obsessions, can pretty much be done in complete solitude, and I don't plan on giving those up any time soon.

But here's the thing--no matter how deeply I get into my passions, I always end up wanting to share them. On the face of it blogging, knitting, cooking, etc., sound like things that would isolate a person, but really, they're just the opposite. Who blogs strictly for themselves? What knitter doesn't knit for others? I have exactly zero "cooking for one" cookbooks. You get the idea.

As much as I like showing off sharing the things I love to do, at times I have to be blasted out of my cocoon with a stick of dynamite. Or at least a persistent nudge. I've had a lot of un-ignorable nudges lately, and I appreciate them very much--comments on this blog, emails, invitations. I've tried to reciprocate with comments of my own, return emails, little gifts. I don't know if any of them matter to the recipients, but in a way, it's not for them; it's for me. This hermit likes being connected and likes giving, as long as I don't come off as a stalker.

Friends matter. Giving to them and giving of them matters. It feels good for everybody. Or should if there's no strings attached. And that brings up the whole expectations thing, which is another blog post for another day.

Have a great weekend, Friends, and make time for blogging, knitting, cooking, reading, and most of all, your friends.

13 comments:

  1. Found you through the 'where's your blog' thread on Ravelry and thought I should say hello.

    I understand the hermit-y tendencies entirely. It's not that I don't like people, but sometimes pursuits that don't need a partner (or more) are so much fun.

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  2. I am going to the movies with my friends. Leaving in 5 minutes. Have a wonderful weekend blogger friend. And, yes, your gifts matter and they are wonderful!

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  3. Resa, welcome! I checked out your blog--fantastic writing! What's your Rav name?

    Kirsten, have fun! And thanks.

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  4. Have a good weekend too! My plan for tonight is to relax with my wine and knitting :)

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  5. i understand completely. Love people, but also love being alone!

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  6. You know we are very much the same minus the whole cooking part. Plus- cocoons turn into butterflies- now I'm off to check the hermit link.

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  7. My plan for tonight was knitting. But I was sidetracked by the card games on the computer and didn't get any knitting done! And I didn't win playing against the computer!! I hope your weekend goes well.

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  8. I'm wondering about this snazzy little ravelry mug that appeared in my mailbox - it has jelli-donut written all over it, yes? Must know for sure. Because great thanks are in order. And, btw - DO NOT HERMIT! Not for good, anyway. Your writing lifts and cheers me and you are a fabulous knitter/inspiration.

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  9. I'm in complete agreement. I hope that when you read the Hermit tarot card description you see that it applies to you in the mentor way as well as the others. Your wise spirit and generosity are clear, even just through your words in cyberspace.

    I also believe that the change in seasons encourages this hermit tendency -- time to rest, take comfort, and prepare for the next cycle. Can't always be blooming, right? - got to plant seeds and nurture them to get the flowers.

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  10. Being a hermit is what I miss right now. I know the time will come (in fact the Handy will finally be moving into an office 1st Dec), but with my home never empty at the moment, I'm seriously missing hermit time. Holing up in my car at the park waiting for the Geek's class to get done is rapidly turning into a blessed relief!

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  11. Hey, the holidays are no time for hermit-ing! I hope you had a great weekend,friend. :)

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  12. I am also a hermit. And nothing wrong with a little internet stalking ;) It is afterall how I make my living.

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  13. I love being a hermit...even as a kid my best times were in my room with all of my books and nobody to bother me.

    Didn't know you were into tarot cards. I used to read the cards before I started knitting. Wait a minute. I used to do a lot of other things before I started knitting.

    Glad you started your blog, Susan!

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